Posted by Nichol Chukwuemeka • Wednesday, 10 August 2016
Excerpt – “From Bullied to Brilliant”
At some point in life you may, like many of us, find yourself
inspired and motivated enough to embark on a new and possibly intrepid
venture either in your career or personal life. As is usually the way
with inspired and motivated (some may say foolhardy) ventures, this
undertaking will probably fall well outside of your comfort zone and
require courage, vision, commitment, determination and lots of
tea to bring it to the light of day. In order to embark on this journey
you inevitably need to let go of many behaviours, patterns and habits
you previously held dear. This puts you into a state of transition and
can have a profound effect on your immediate relationships. At this
point there is a great need for you to focus your thoughts and perhaps,
just like our rhinoceros, develop a slightly thicker skin.When we find ourselves in a transition such as this regardless of our personal power and potential, it can be all too easy to become fearful or overwhelmed and feel a deep longing for support and validation. Interestingly, at these times you may notice that instead of being enthusiastic and encouraging, some of your close friends and family become unusually quiet and strangely disinterested in you. This can happen when you go through any kind of transition. When we learn a new skill or reach out for new horizons, the people who are closest to us often become confused by the changes and uncertain as to whether they approve or not. Human beings are notable for being uncomfortable with change, including the changes they witness in friends and family. Give them time to adjust to and accept the transformation they are seeing in you. There are many reasons for people to withdraw, sometimes all they need is a little time to convince themselves that everything is going to be ok.
“Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend – or a meaningful day”
Dalai Lama
As you transition to the up-dated, revamped and revised version of
you, although you may possibly feel lonely and rejected, be aware that
you will inevitably attract new people into your world. These people
will be aligned with your up-dated, revamped and revised way of thinking
and will be able to celebrate the place you now find yourself. Your new
enterprise itself will undoubtedly capture much of your attention and
soften the effects of losing the support of those you love and cherish.
Regardless, the period of loneliness and mourning does not need to last
long if you focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want and
all true friends and loving family will come back to you in their own
time. The others, well, bless the moments you shared together and be
grateful for the space you now have in your life to welcome and create
something new.
“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.”
Walt Disney
Needless to say, for all the dreamers out there, never trade your
dreams for comfort or companionship. Life is for living, not for biding
time and, might I add, it is entirely possible to follow your dreams
whilst remaining committed to your immediate family. You may find
yourself bewildered and misunderstood at times, you may have your
intellect or sanity questioned, but if you are following your
dreams doesn’t it make sense that few can see where you are going or
understand how you are going to get there? Besides, living the
roller-coaster of life can be terrific fun. I wouldn’t miss it for the
world.
